Conversations with my Buddha…

Mortal  you are special ….

Buddha:  I am nobody.   I am not even my mind.

Mortal: that is how I am feeling today….

Buddha: It is only natural!

Mortal: Is it? Why?

Buddha: ” the reflection of the moon on the surface of the lake, who dares to say it isn’t there; who can say it is there?”   We are all influenced by one or more ways of life, or philosophers, but who can’t say it isn’t our mind; who can say it is thinking, without a thinker?

Mortal: And is the mind ever completely clear of interpretation?

Buddha: that is when one enjoys the fullest state of bliss.

Mortal: And, if that is not enough?

Buddha: Unsatisfactoriness is one of the truths of our lives.  However you spend it, is up to you.

Mortal: Spend life, moments of bliss or the truth of being unsatisfied?

Buddha: The middle path, Mortal, the middle path!

Mortal: And what if the middle path is not fulfilling enough?

Buddha: Extreme suffering arises.

Mortal: With no alleviation?

Buddha: If you tighten the 6 strings of a guitar just right, the guitar shall produce sweet sound; if too tight all strings get broken; too loose, no sound produced.

Mortal: Yes, but that equates human feeling with mechanistic adjustment, not allowing for emotional variation….

Buddha: There are two ways of looking at one’s emotion: objectively and subjectively.  The object does not know the subject who has emotion for the object.  The subject only sees the thing based on his own experiences and the object’s.  The variation of feelings is delusion of the mind.

Mortal: That is, If you accept the premise that all feeling is controlled by the mind…

Buddha: Except the 5 senses of the body

Mortal: Taste, touch, sound, smell, sight–all elements of sensual arousal…Independent of mind?

Buddha: Thought. Thoughts come from the mind; if I am not my mind, then I am nobody.  When I am nobody, I am not the self, then I am non-self, then I am just a part of nature.  Like the tree selflessly producing oxygen and fruit to nurture all beings. Then it dies.

Mortal: And aren’t your physical traits all part of nature? Isn’t sensuality part of nature?

Buddha:   Everything completes the universe, and that is all.  To think that Humans are more important or intelligent than other animals is just a delusion of the Human mind. Are we the best protector of the earth, because we have better ‘feelings’ or sense of our surroundings? Obviously not.

Mortal: That assumes animals don’t feel love or loyalty, which is counter to recent research in dogs, cats, even whales…

Buddha: Everything completes the universe, and that is all.

Mortal: I agree that all complete the universe, but I’m not sure that ends the discussion…

Buddha: Only  selflessness can produce pure love, kindness, and compassion.

Mortal: And what is pure?

Buddha: When a ‘gift’ is a gift not a suggestion of a better gift in exchange.

Mortal: Yes, that I know clearly & intuitively.

Buddha: How many people can do that? Very few, among numberless beings.

Mortal: I agree. I want to go to a peaceful place of completeness. Yet, we each define that place differently. For me, it includes all those gifts you mentioned, plus creative, intellectual, soulful & sensual fulfillment. Perhaps, my standards for happiness are too high….

Buddha: Why?

Mortal:   Because it is achieved so fleetingly….

Buddha: All that is part of nature. We are it. We are creating it.  We are programmed to produce intellectual thought.

Mortal: Do we create nature? Does nature create us?   Is nature responsible for what we do or do not do? Or, are we?

Buddha: Look at a flower. Isn’t it brilliant?

Mortal:   Yes. Flowers are evidence of nature’s perfection…But, how much of what we do is ego driven? Selfish?

Buddha: Neither

Mortal: The ego & the self play no part?

Buddha: They play the part of increased suffering. Unnatural; it is worse than death, which is natural.

Mortal: So no creation by man is natural? Unless it includes suffering?  Can humans create anything without ego?

Buddha: Selfishly eating too much of anything intensifies the affects of drought.

Mortal: I’m talking about creating, not destroying. Isn’t childbirth BOTH a natural & an egoistic act?

Buddha: To complete the universe. The desire to sex is natural.

Mortal: Yes. And to breed is natural.

Buddha: Baby is the result

Mortal: Baby is not always the result of human sex

Buddha: Yes.   The desire to have baby is natural.

Mortal: So sex & procreation can BOTH be natural AND separate…Can someone choose to be childless? Is that “unnatural?”

Buddha:  Childless is natural too. One can’t have baby in many ways.

Mortal: How can both be natural, if one completes the universe?

Buddha: Ah, you agree that rocks complete the universe?

Mortal: Yes.

Buddha: Exactly. All has a mission

Mortal: You are enlightening.    A true joy to chat with.  You have helped to lift me today. I am grateful for your wonderful ability to not feel threatened by questions…

Buddha: You are only tending to nature.

Mortal: Well, you are quite remarkable…

Buddha: It is nature that is remarkable. I am nothing.

Mortal: Yes, she is too; but you are much more than nothing to me… you live your practice…

Buddha: Practice is the only way of living. Enjoy your day one breath at a time. That is all we have. And every breath of air you take is brand new.

 

 

 

“Hil & Julian Up in the White House”… A New Campaign Song.

 

( New lyrics by Steve Villano, with generous assistance from Paul Simon, and sung to the tune of “Me & Julio Down By the Schoolyard.”)

 

Mama Sonoma rolled out of bed

And she ran to the polling station.

When White Papa found out, he began to shout,

And started the investigation.

 

“It’s against the law; against natural law,

What the Mama saw, was against natural law.”

 

Mama ran down, campaigned around town,

Every time the name gets mentioned.

White Papa said “NO,” not a Castro,

I want to stick him in the house of detention.

 

We’ll we’re on our way, and we all know where we’re goin.’

We’re on our way—we’re takin’ our time, but we all know where—

Goodbye to Crazies, the Deans of Cojones,

See, it’s Hil and Julian up in the White House..

See , it’s Hil and Julian up in the White House.

 

In a couple of days they’ll try to take me away,

But the Tweets got my story leaked.

And when the radical Right tried to snuff out my life,

We was trending with all social news geeks.

 

Well we’re on our way, and we all know where we’re goin’.

We’re on our way—we’re takin’ our time, but we all know where—

See, it’s Hil & Julian up in the White House;

See, it’s Hil & Julian up in the White House.

 

Goodbye to Crazies, the Deans of Cojones,

See, it’s Hil and Julian up in the White House.

See, it’s Hil and Julian up in the White House.

See , it’s Hil and Julian up in the White House.

 

(Dedicated to “Mama Sonoma,” Mara Levy Kahn, whose wonderful full-of-life, full-of-love photo inspired this rendition.”

 

 

 

Jack & Jill, During Droughts

(A poetic parable, inspired by my granddaughters, ages almost 6 and 3 ½.)

 

Jack & Jill came home from school,

With empty pails for water;

Buckets for the bath & shower,

To catch runaway drops like we oughta.

 

The showers went on, the pails went in

And each one filled right to the brim.

“Now, careful! Don’t spill,” said Jack to Jill.

And gently, gingerly they went down the hill.

 

When they arrived, the plants were alive,

Leaves stretching up towards the sky, where rain

Once came, bye and bye,

Until the sky…just…went…dry.

 

Month after month, no rainfall fell

Making the ground feel hotter than… Well,

Hotter than it’s ever been,

Drier than anyone had ever seen.

 

Tomatoes shriveled on the vine,

And grapes just died before their time.

No sauce for the pizza,

No wine for the palate—

Just getting through the day

Felt like being hit by a mallet.

 

Lawns went dry; golf courses fizzled.

All for lack of a gentle drizzle.

“We’ve got to save enough to drink,” the Gov’nor said,

“Or we shall sink.”

 

So farms cut back, and frackers turned blue.

Cars went dirty, and sidewalks did too,

Just being sidewalks,

Like most sidewalks do.

 

Sprinklers didn’t sprink,

And people didn’t even THINK

Of filling up pools,

Or being greedy fools.

 

The grown ups had failed,

To fill up their pails,

Or save enough water,

For sons and daughters.

 

So Jack and Jill, came down the hill,

Joined by classmates by the mill…

Each kid had a pail, filled with melted hail

And each plant they saw, sipped carefully through a straw.

 

The plants began to cheer,

“Hooray, the future’s here!”

At last, the humans have found the cure:

It’s caring for each other, simple and pure.

 

So while awful dolts fought over puddles and piddles,

Sensible solutions came from those who were little.

They learned about sharing and caring in school,

And new cooperation was very, very cool.

 

Bucket by bucket our water grew,

One million pails, now there are two.

Keep ‘em coming , Jill, Jack & Janet;

You’ll be the heroes to save our planet!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Unplug Your Headphones; Talk to Your Neighbor

 Is living in a community good for your health?

It’s a question which has gained currency again as an epidemic of loneliness and tiny, isolated living quarters sweeps the nation, fueled by social media’s illusion of connection and the high cost of housing, and manifested in a growing number of stress-related diseases. Numerous medical studies have underscored the benefits of long-term relationships in nurturing the health of both partners, but the most comprehensive of all the “healthy communities” studies dates back some 50 years.

The study, entitled “The Roseto Effect,: A 50-Year Comparison of Mortality Rates” and written up in the American Journal of Public Health in August, 1992, is a longitudinal look at how a closely knit, caring community experienced a documented, decades-long reduced rate of heart disease and other stress related illnesses. It is meticulously measured medical proof of the health benefits of living in a thriving , connected and caring community over a generation.

Roseto, Pennsylvania, settled by Italian immigrants from Southern Italy in 1882, started as a closely knit community which emphasized family cohesion and intergenerational support. The study, conducted by a team headed by Dr. Stewart Wolf, the Chairman of Medicine at the University of Oklahoma, and affirmed by major universities and medical journals in the United States and abroad, demonstrated conclusively that a socially cohesive community, where elders were revered and people were nurtured by others, recorded heart & stress related diseases far below the national average and the averages of neighboring towns, without such connection among community members.

Roseto became a “living laboratory” for social cohesion and a model for healthy communities, demonstrating that neighborliness was good BOTH for the body politic AND the human body. In an updated report on the Roseto Effect out of the University of Chicago entitled “The Power of the Clan: 1935-1984”, the clear finding was that “mutual respect and cooperation contributed to the health and welfare of the community and its inhabitants.”

Like a goal of the Bay Area’s pioneering affordable/sustainable community developer Thriving Communities (www.thrivingcommunities.com), the culture of cooperation prevailed in Roseto, “ and radiated a kind of joyous team spirit as they celebrated festivals and family landmarks” together. “People are nourished by other people,” Dr. Wolf found. In short, the studies found, people are good for other people’s health, especially when living in a caring, family-like community.

Wolf’s medical conclusions went even further: “The characteristics of a tight knight community are better predictors of healthy hearts than low levels of serum cholestoral or tobacco use,” he wrote. “We looked at the social structure of healthy communities and found that they are characterized by stability and predictability. We also found that there were higher stress-related illnesses in isolated people; that the sense of being supported, reduced stress.”

In 1999, the same year the Napa Valley based company Healthy Buildings USA was formed (www.hbusa.net), the British Medical Journal reinforced Dr. Wolf’s cornerstone conclusions about the value of community and socialization upon good health by finding that “ people who perceive themselves as socially isolated, are two to five times at greater risk for premature death for all causes.” The British Journal went on to report that “social and productive pursuits are equivalent to and independent of the merits of exercise.” Imagine that: living in community—a real, thriving community populated by real human beings, not a virtual on-line community—is at least as good for your health as exercise! So, unplug your headphones, and talk to your neighbor.

Is living in a thriving, nurturing community good for your health? The evidence is clear, long established and well-documented: thriving, socially cohesive and caring communities are medically proven to work for people’s well-being. When you add to that formula a community with a high level of concern over environmental sustainability, respect for nature, careful water use, affordability, respect for fundamental human dignity and compassion for your neighbors, the results may well re-define the “American Dream” for new generations.

Convention as the Enemy of Invention

I know I’m not 22. I’ve known that for the past 44 years.

I know I don’t have a conventional professional background, having changed careers six times, and earned two advanced graduate degrees, including a law-degree in an accelerated 2-year program at 35 years old, as the father of a young son. In fact, my son, then 7, was the youngest person ever to sit through the “Seven Dirty Words Case” in a  Constitutional Law Class.

I’ve written Haiku, plays, screenplays and essays;  high-level speeches, law review articles,  children’s stories about lop-sided pumpkins and policy papers. I’ve run multi-million dollar organizations and less than profitable non-profits.  I’ve taken chances on hiring a dramatically diverse array of talented people, giving many a shot to prove themselves.  Conventionality repelled me.

And, I know that to some Millenials, it’s a little odd for someone my age to still be seeking new, creative opportunities with a sense of urgency, when their perception of us– NOT reality–  is that we should be shuffling our feet behind a walker or playing shuffleboard.

What rankles me are not my wrinkles, but being stigmatized as “unconventional” as if it were on a par with incontinence. After watching my father get ground down by a conventional blue-collar job as a maintenance worker for nearly 40 years, I grew up knowing that I wanted my life to be anything BUT conventional.   And, while I did work for some pretty “conventional” institutions—non-profit organizations, unions, government, and medical centers—I managed to carve out a career over 4 decades which, while on a seemingly seamless trajectory of public education, public service, public health & non-profit leadership, scares the shorts off of people less than half-my age who view “difference” as a quaint disease.

What’s particularly ironic is that it’s coming from alleged “ disrupters”, who preach–if you buy their hype and survive their Skyped pitches–that convention is the enemy of invention.    On several occasions, I’ve been told by heads of organizations, headhunters, and Human Resource robots, that my background is, while tremendously impressive (blah, blah, blah), was TOO “unconventional” for them.   Exasperated, I finally turn off my interview charm, despite frantic hand-signals from my spouse to turn on my I-phone’s mute button.

Like a gattling-gun with a trigger that became unjammed, I pummel  the interviewer, pointing out that conventional personnel fits were dull and boring. Having done consulting for big and small organizations, I’ve frequently advised them that those that follow a narrow selection criteria in hiring end up losing to their competitors.

“Yes,” the patronizing response is,” but for this position we are looking for someone who’s followed a more traditional path of leadership.”   Suddenly, my years of working for Mario Cuomo and watching him make mincemeat out of morons, takes hold of me.

I reminded the interviewer that she sought me out because of my background and experience. And, not to leave a point of logic unpointed to, I noted that her new boss, also half my age, had absolutely no background nor training in the field.

Ah, but he wasn’t both “old” and “confrontational”, I could hear the sound of her smug silence saying. “Confrontational” is what you get tagged when you merely point out inconsistencies and foolish gibberish in other people’s words or actions. Unconventional might be tolerated, but only if its combined with being non confrontational, and young. This organization was looking for a leader with a lobotomy.

I could argue that a not-so-subtle form of ageism was being used against me, especially since I’ve spent years working against the conventional notion of retirement—a few of them recruiting skilled professionals with Math/Science backgrounds to teach Math & Science in underserved public schools.

But ageism, like many other acts of cowardice, comes with a smile and a shoeshine in sunny, stress-less companies around the country, especially when the object of the smirking scorn is over 60. “Unconventional” becomes a euphemism for “uncontrollable,” and accomplishments, while praised, would be perfect for the “type of employee” the organization is looking for, if only there weren’t an older human being attached to them, with a brain able to process thoughts, as well as tweets.

Fortunately, unconventionality has been the inspiration for quite a few folks, from Steve Jobs to Bob Dylan, Elon Musk to Bill Gates, and Walt Whitman to Tyrus Wong.  Still more,  inspiration comes from Paul Simon, Francis Ford Coppola and my son, who have taught me that, sure, they could always be “successful to the outside world but not successful to themselves,” if they kept doing the same thing, as Jobs once told Fortune Magazine.

“That’s the moment than an artist really decides who he or she is,” Apple’s founder said. “If they keep on risking failure, they’re still artists.”

 

Open Hands, Open Hearts

The door to the tiny one room apartment was propped open. Boxes piled neatly on top of boxes, almost to the ceiling, made the skimpy SRO living quarters look even tighter.  The notation on the delivery sheet next to the resident’s name said: “Client hard of hearing; speak very loud.”

Phillip Petrasanta, a long-time volunteer for San Francisco’s Project Open Hand, shouted the client’s name past the open door. A tall, frail looking man, greeted us, smiling, and accepted the hot dinner.

“Thank you both for volunteering, “ he said .

“It’s our pleasure, “we said, almost at the same time.

“Have a nice evening,” Phillip added.

We headed back down the stairs in the dilapidated, small old Tenderloin hotel with the balky elevator, which, as one dignified, well-spoken resident told us, “only listens to the last button pushed.”

These were the folks most San Franciscans forgot: the frail, the elderly, the home-bound, those battling cancer, or substance abuse, or living with HIV/AIDS, the poor, the disabled, the mentally ill, the recently homeless, or those just down on their luck.   Tucked away in tumble-down tenements on Turk Street, and Golden Gate, Taylor & Jones, behind iron bars and attendants shielded by bullet-proof glass, where photo IDs were required of all who entered or left the building, these tenants of the Golden City on the Hill were invisible to most, except the humane beings at Project Open Hand.

The non-profit life-line serves 2500 meals per day in San Francisco and Alameda Counties, relying heavily on volunteers to hand-deliver food, along with a dollop of love and concern each day.  For some shut-ins, it’s the only human contact they have all day long. Supported largely by individual donors, Project Open Hand (POH) also operates a “grocery store” at 730 Polk Street, in the heart of the Tenderloin, where ambulatory clients can pick up fresh produce and grains for their carefully supervised, nutritious diets.

Project Open Hand was born 30 years ago out of the heart and hearth of Ruth Brinker, a special individual who began by cooking meals in her own kitchen for seven friends with HIV/AIDS related illnesses. Today, POH provides some 900,000 meals and 730,000 bags of groceries per year to its clients, who are battling many diseases and disabilities, including poverty, in uber-wealthy SF where micro-apartments command macro-rents. In too many cases, the food provided by 125 volunteers per day–and supervised by a registered dietitian–is the only nutritious food the human beings helped by Project Open Hand receive. Astounding to acknowledge in a progressive urban mecca that runs on the “Open Table” App, and brags about brunch dates and Bellinis.

For over four-decades I’ve worked with dozens of non-profits across the country, serving on Boards of Directors, as a volunteer, and as a CEO. Very few are as immediately life-saving, and essential to the human spirit as Project Open Hand, where the impact of your dollar, or devotion, is received the moment the person behind the peephole sees a friendly face, props open the apartment door and pays you back with a shy smile or grateful eyes.

This weekend, as you are about to access the Open Table App, opt for Project Open Hand instead. (www.openhand.org). Donate the cost of your brunch, a shot of bourbon or a Bloody Mary to nurture your spirit, your soul and your neighbors whose existence depends upon you opening your heart, the way the team at Salesforce has in the attached YouTube video. Food is indeed love, and in more and more lives in our communities, it has become an essential medicine for survival.

 

https://youtu.be/09um0Ucc7GY